The power of asking why
Hey, it’s Rob again of robtayloroffical.com. Just wanted to check in and see how you are all doing? I was at a meeting yesterday, a networking gathering, and I was asked a very important question that’s got me thinking ever since. I’ve heard it asked before but I’ve never really given it as much thought as what I ended up giving it when asked last night. That was just a simple question of “why?”. Now, on the face of it, it seems like a very logical and simple question to answer. If you keep repeating the same questions, why? What is your why? Why are you doing what you are doing? Why is your product your product or why is your business your focus? Why are you motivated to get up in the morning and do what you do for who you do?
I just think it was worth exploring a little bit about me and so you can apply it to yourself as well. Ultimately, I guess, as superficial as it may seem, you do it because you want a better life, you want more money. That’s ultimately a reasonable goal for many people isn’t it, to have more money? I know it is for me. I’d love to have more money. I’ve come from a career of 13 years where I’ve worked 50-60 hour weeks building my experience, my knowledge and applying that to someone else’s business and helping them to progress their business and their product without me really getting wealth, certainly not getting wealthy but without really being paid or rewarded with the to what that role could merit.
Now, ever since I was small and I say this to many people, ever since I was small, I’ve always wanted to be my own boss. I’ve always wanted to be the man who drives something forward himself and creates something useful. I don’t know where that’s come from, that innate sense of wanting to deliver something of worth. Now, why is that you might ask, why, why do I want to deliver something of worth? Is it to justify my own position? Is it to prove people wrong? Is it to merit what I do? It’s a very difficult question and one that really like I say, has been with me for the past 24 hours since I heard it asked.
I think the closest I can get is really a two-pronged reasoning. I see there being a selfish side to this. Ultimately, everyone wants to achieve don’t they? I want to know what I can do. I want to know what my limit is. What can I do? I’ve thought in my own head for long enough that I can make a difference to people and create something. I need to do that don’t I? I need to, that’s why I do it cause I need to achieve. I need to know where I can go and what my peak is. What is my self-actualization because it goes beyond just having a job. I don’t want just a job, I want a life and that is why ultimately, I’ve finally taken the decision to at least try. If I don’t try what am I doing? I’m just coasting. I’m coasting living the life that has been expected and foretold of everyone in our generation, in our position in society. Go to school, get a job, retire. That was the scale wasn’t it? Whereas, I can just sense that there’s something else out there and finally I am building something of worth, not only to me, but to others as well. You have to take the step and take the plunge and have some courage in your convictions and step out from your comfort zone. If you don’t get out of your comfort zone, how do you know what you can achieve?
That’s the sort of selfish reason to why I’m doing what I’m doing but then there’s obviously other reasons. There’s a deeper, emotional level and deeper provision for others which ultimately, is my two wonderful boys and my supportive, adoring and brilliant wife. That is my drive. Now that’s what gets me up. That’s what kicks me. That what makes me want to do one more phone call. That’s what makes me want to get one more contact, one more network, one more business card. It’s always the one more, always the more and always the why is it? Why? Why do I want to prove to myself that I can do something? Maybe it’s because when my kids grow old, I can say well kids, your dad tried. I want you to try too because we’ve all got that in us. If I tried at least I can say to them you go and try too. What is it that you want to do? Why do you want to do it? They’re my sort of two obvious reasons and I’m sure going into the next 24-48 hours I’ll think of more.
I just think it’s a very important question that you need to ask. Ask yourselves. Ask your spouse. Ask your colleagues. Ask your boss. That could be quite a fun one. Just ask. Just ask why. Keep asking why and then when they’ve answered that ask why again because you will scrape the surface very quickly and you will appreciate that there’s a lot more to people and a lot more to your boss, your friend, your colleague, your spouse than meets the eye. You might just have more in common with them than you think. Yeah, just I wanted to share that with you and I’d be interested to know your thoughts. As ever, hit me up. It’s at robtaylor1889 or you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I shall chat to you soon.